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title: "Grief in Recovery"
date: 2025-09-11
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# Grief in Recovery

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# Grief in Recovery: Finding Hope in the Hurt

**Grief touches every life, and it can feel overwhelming in the shadow of loss.**

Yet even in seasons of sorrow, God offers a path forward—one that invites honesty, healing, and hope. By facing grief with faith and healthy practices, we can move from isolation toward restoration in Christ.

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What is Grief?

## What is Grief?

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 **1. Grief is a strong overwhelming emotion of sadness usually brought on by a loss in one’s life.**  **2. Grief is commonly a result of difficult life transitions, sin, the death of a loved one, and broken hopes, dreams, or expectations.**  **3. We are not given a choice about having grief, but we can choose how we grieve.**

- Denial
- Repression
- Medicating
- Anger or Depression

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Unhealthy Grieving

## Unhealthy Grieving

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 **1. Many take on the “Don’t talk. Don’t Trust. Don’t Feel.” mentality when it comes to grief.**

- Denial leads to repression which leads to isolation and eventually to other negative behaviors like anger or depression.

 **2. There is a connection between painful losses and addictive behavior.**

- Those who choose to not face their grief head on are more l likely to choose unhealthy coping behaviors such as drinking alcohol, smoking marijuana, bingeing on video games, food, or TV, violent (verbal or physical) outbursts on family and friends. This list is not exhaustive, but some of the most common.

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Healthy Grieving

## Unhealthy Grieving

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 **1. Many take on the “Don’t talk. Don’t Trust. Don’t Feel.” mentality when it comes to grief.**

- Denial leads to repression which leads to isolation and eventually to other negative behaviors like anger or depression.

 **2. There is a connection between painful losses and addictive behavior.**

- Those who choose to not face their grief head on are more l likely to choose unhealthy coping behaviors such as drinking alcohol, smoking marijuana, bingeing on video games, food, or TV, violent (verbal or physical) outbursts on family and friends. This list is not exhaustive, but some of the most common.

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How to Support Healthy Grieving

## How to Support Healthy Grieving

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 **1. Educate yourself on the grieving process.**

- Grief has 5 Stages 
    - Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and Acceptance
- Someone may experience all or one of these stages in any order.
- Those grieving may also cycle through any of these stages many times before they are able to fully accept the loss in their life.

 **2. Confront and address your own points of grief in life.** **3. Approach conversations with empathy, compassion, and patience.**

- Encouraging someone to find a support group centered around grief can be transformational in their healing process.
- You do not and should not be their only place of comfort as they walk through the grieving process.
- The old saying, “It takes a village” applies to many different struggles in life and grief is one of them.

 **4. Build an environment of trust and safety.**

- Sharing a brief story from a time of grief in your own life can help someone feel as though they aren’t alone.
- It’s important to help those in grief share their stories and avoid fixating on pain.
- Fixation points to the past, but testimony points to growth.

 **5. Engage in spiritual warfare through prayer and intercession.**

- Acknowledge we are all making sense of grief in our lives.
- It is important to think about the answer to, “Why does God allow suffering?”
- Thomas Ogden’s book Pastoral Theology-Essentials of Ministry is an excellent resource for approaching this question.
- It is important to grapple with theological truths before mentioning them to a loved one. This ensures the Holy Spirit and His work is the priority over a philosophical debate.

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Scriptures on Grief

## Scriptures on Grief

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**Psalm 22, 23, 24, 40, 42, 46, 51, 62**

**Job 1 & 2**

**Romans 5:12-21**

**1 Peter 1: 3-9, 2:20-21, 4:12-13; 5:7**

**Romans 8:28-39**

**Ephesians 1:11-12**

**Psalm 34**

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Statements to Avoid

## Statements to Avoid

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 **1. “I know how you feel.”**  **2. “Get on with your life.”**  **3. “Keep your chin up—this is a blessing.”**  **4. “Time heals all wounds.”**  **5. “You need to be strong and carry on—just get over it.”**  **6. “Tears are a sign of weakness.”** **7. “It’s been 6 years or 6 months—don’t you think you should be over it by now?”**  
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Recommended Resources on Grief

## Recommended Resources on Grief

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**Addiction Counseling**   
by Dianne Doyle Pita

**Addiction and Grace**   
by Gerald G. May, M.D.

**All Our Losses All Our Griefs**   
by Kenneth R. Mitchel & Herbert Anderson

**Don’t Sing Songs to a Heavy Heart**   
by Kenneth C. Haugk, Ph.D.

**Grieve Well Live Well**   
by Dr. T. David Willets

**Grieving God’s Way**   
by Margaret Brownley

**Growing Through Grief**   
by Howard Clinebell & Martha Hickman

**Healing After Loss**   
by Martha Whitmore Hickman

**Healing Your Grieving Heart**   
by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.

**Life Is Goodbye Life Is Hello**   
by Alla Renee Bozarth, Ph.D.

**Making Sense of Loss**   
by Robert A. Neimeyer

**Pastoral Care & Chemical Dependency**   
by Scott McCormick, M.D.

**Personal Growth and Healing**   
by Elizabeth Gessel, MA.

**The Kohut Seminars, Self-Esteem and Ideals**   
by Heinz Kohut

**The Language of Letting Go**   
by Melody Beattie

**Through a Season of Grief**   
by Bill Dunn & Kathy Leonard

**Understanding Your Grief**   
by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.

**When God and Grief Meet**   
by Lynn Eib

**Willpower’s Not Enough**   
by (Section on Relapse) Arnold Washton, Ph.D., Donna Boundy, M.S.W.